From both a scientific and biblical perspective, we know that long periods of loneliness and isolation are not great for us. And yet, loneliness is also a common part of the human experience - increasingly so in a world that’s become so heavily dependent on technology for connection and communication. In light of this, how can we begin to understand and cope with feelings of loneliness?
First, we must recognize that loneliness and being alone are not necessarily one and the same. Being alone simply refers to a physical state of being by yourself. In contrast, loneliness is not a physical state but rather an emotional one. Loneliness refers to feeling disconnected, unseen, and unknown, even if physically surrounded by people. Gaining clarity about these differences can increase insight about our needs and improve our overall emotional well-being.
Being alone is not necessarily a bad thing, nor something to be ashamed of. In fact, alone time is often necessary. From a therapeutic perspective, carving out intentional time to be alone provides space and opportunity for self-reflection and self-care which in turn increases our self-awareness and boosts our mood. From a biblical perspective, practicing solitude was regularly modeled by Christ and is something we’re encouraged to do as a way of connecting with God and becoming more attuned to His voice (Mark 1:35; Luke 5:15-16).
Unlike the benefits of being alone or practicing intentional solitude, prolonged feelings of loneliness has been linked to physical and mental health struggles including poor sleep, weakened immunity, anxiety, and depression.
At its core, loneliness is a longing for deep connection and authentic relationships. What we know about loneliness can sound pretty negative and scary, but it can also be helpful and hopeful. Understanding loneliness for what it is can better equip us to cope when it shows up.
Check out this infographic below for some helpful ways to cope with loneliness.
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Written by: Jessica Abraham, LMHC (Senior Clinician)
Parenting Group :: Returning May 2025!
Back by popular demand, we are excited to be offering our parenting skills and support group, Understanding Your Child's Needs, kicking off in early May.
Parenting is hard work, and the challenges we face as parents change constantly from one stage of life to the next. There are endless amounts of parenting gurus and resources out there but never enough hands-on guidance or encouragement.
This group is designed to meet that need for each and every participant. It will help you better understand your own parenting style, emotional regulation strategies, managing difficult behaviors, and connecting with your kids at each unique stage of development.
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